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Forget buying flowers or jewelry or making reservations at that fancy brunch spot. While your mother or wife might be happy to receive these tokens of affection, what she really craves on this day meant to celebrate mothers is a day off from being the mom.

So put that $170 back in your wallet (that's the average amount people plan to spend on Mother's Day) and roll up your sleeves. Here, according to popular mom bloggers we consulted, are the ingredients for a perfect day. Try them at your house.

Let Mom Sleep Late

"I'm still a pretty new mom, and the thing that I would appreciate the most is the gift of sleep. If my husband gave me a few 'sleep-in' coupons that I could cash in whenever I wanted, I would be completely overjoyed. It wouldn't cost him a cent, and I would be so grateful." —Anna Newell Jones, andthenwesaved.com

Take Over the Cleaning

"I want a laundry fairy to swing by the house and wash, dry, fold and put away all of the clothes (especially mine)" —Anna Luther, mylifeandkids.com

"My ideal Mother's Day gift would be my family all pitching in together to clean up the house, do the dishes, fold and put away the laundry, and make me something yummy to eat while I took a bubble bath or read a good book." — Crystal Paine, moneysavingmom.com

"Aside from the little sweet, self-made gifts from my toddlers (which I love), the Mother's Day gift I want the most is a self-cleaning house. Like a Roomba, but it would clean every facet of our place. I'd never have to clean again! And I would be the happiest mama in the world! I would settle for no cleaning for a week though, or even a day." —Alana Pace, parentingfromtheheartblog.com

Close the Kitchen

"I want a day off in the kitchen. No making 17 breakfasts (for three kids) and 22 snacks and a lunch that no one but the dog will eat." —Anna Luther, mylifeandkids.com

"The best gift I have received for Mother's Day was a surprise family picnic by the river. I didn't have to worry about any of the planning. My husband had the car packed with blankets and food and drinks and towels. The kids were all ready to go and had swim suits and sunblock and cards they had made for me. All I had to do was relax and enjoy a day outside." —Scarlet Paolicchi, familyfocusblog.com

"I want to finish the day with a dinner out, so not only can I be cooked for, I don't have to clean up a tornado size mess in my kitchen."—April McCormick, firsttimemomanddad.com

Leave Her Alone

"Prior to becoming a mother, I thought Mother's Day was all about showering mom with love, hugs, and kisses, while following her around all day. Oh, how wrong I was. Now that I'm a mother, I've realized that's the last thing I want. For Mother's Day, I want to finish a cup of coffee, without any interruptions. I want to sit in a lawn chair and read a good book for more than five minutes, without any interruptions. Mother's Day is the one day of the year that mothers deserve to be appreciated for all they do, without having to do anything, or be bothered by anyone."—April McCormick, firsttimemomanddad.com

"As a stay-at-home mom the greatest gift my husband can give me is time to myself. I want to go into a store and shop without having to worry about leaving when a battle of wills breaks out between me and my preschooler. I want to slip into a quiet corner of a coffee shop with my E-reader and an iced caramel macchiato. I want just a few minutes to let my mind rest from the constant awareness of where my child is and what he is doing. When my husband gives me time off of my mom duties, he's speaking straight to my heart. More importantly, I come back refreshed and can give my family the best version of me." —Kim Anderson, thriftylittlemom.com

"I want to do all the stuff I used to do when I wasn't a mom. I want to know where all my stuff is, listen to music with swears in it, take an uninterrupted shower, an uninterrupted nap, start drinking at 4 pm, stay up way past my bedtime, and sleep until I felt like it the following morning. Now that would be the ultimate Mother's Day gift." — Susie Johnson, not-your-average-mom.com