--- title: These Qualities Will Make You Unattractive to Coworkers description: Got a crush on a colleague? Make sure you're not doing these things. authors: - name: Donna Rosato url: https://money.com/author/donna-rosato-3/ at_money_since: 2013 articles: 125 covers: - Career Advice - Housing - Insurance - Investing - Lifestyle - Mortgages - Personal Finance - Retirement - Taxes social: - https://x.com/RosatoDonna former_staff: true published: '2015-02-12T20:16:09.000Z' modified: '2024-04-16T05:16:42.000Z' section: Career Advice tags: - career - CareerBuilder - colleague - coworker - Dating - dating at work - dating in the office - interoffice dating - Love and Money - office crush - Office romance - Workplace - workplace romance word_count: 336 canonical: https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/ type: Article source: structured-blocks --- > **Disclosure:** We research all brands listed and may earn a fee from our partners. Research and financial considerations may influence how brands are displayed. Not all brands are included. [Learn more](https://money.com/page/disclaimer/). ![woman filing nails with phone off the hook in the office](https://img.money.com/2015/02/150212_car_officecrush2.jpg) More than a few romances [get their start](http://www.careerbuilder.com/share/aboutus/pressreleasesdetail.aspx?sd=2/13/2014&id=pr803&ed=12/31/2014) at the office. A [new survey by CareerBuilder](http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/workers-name-their-top-office-romance-deal-breakers-in-new-careerbuilder-survey-300033996.html) found that more than a third of workers have dated a colleague, and 30% of office romances led to marriage—which makes sense considering how much time we all spend at work. But for every happily-ever-after "we met at the office" story, there is plenty of love going unrequited over the watercooler. The poll also revealed some surprising reasons why office crushes fail to get off the ground. The top quality that makes a coworker undateable: A poor work ethic. Despite Hollywood's romanticization of the slacker guy, it seems that ambition and hard work are attractive traits—especially to women. Ladies are much less likely to date someone who doesn't work consistently, with 52% saying they wouldn’t vs. 28% of guys. (Meanwhile those who put their nose to the grindstone have a better chance at having a hand to hold: 11% of workplace daters say their relationship began during late nights on the job, not far off from the 12% who reported sparks flying over happy hour drinks.) Another big turnoff: serial dating. [One-quarter of those surveyed](http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/workers-name-their-top-office-romance-deal-breakers-in-new-careerbuilder-survey-300033996.html) say they wouldn’t date someone who has already dated someone else at work. Another 21% say they wouldn’t go out with someone who travels extensively for work. Surprisingly, a disparity in earnings doesn’t kill romance potential. Just 6% say they wouldn’t date someone who earns less money, though slightly more women surveyed (10%) say it is an issue compared to just 2% of men. In any case, intra-office dating [is tricky business](https://money.com/how-to-keep-an-office-romance-from-destroying-your-career/) and you want to [be careful in how you woo a workplace crush](https://money.com/office-relationships-dating-coworker/ "4 Things You Need to Know Before You Start Dating a Coworker"). But at least these findings give you added incentive to work hard—it may pay off for not only your career, but for your love life as well. **More on Money.com:** - [How to Keep an Office Romance from Destroying Your Career](https://money.com/how-to-keep-an-office-romance-from-destroying-your-career/) - [4 Things You Need to Know Before You Start Dating a Coworker](https://money.com/office-relationships-dating-coworker/) - [The Career Mistake You Don't Realize You're Making](https://money.com/career-mistake-talking-too-much/ "The Career Mistake You Don’t Realize You’re Making") ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "@id": "https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/#breadcrumb", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://money.com" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Career Advice", "item": "https://money.com/career-advice/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Work-Life Balance", "item": "https://money.com/work-life-balance/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "These Qualities Will Make You Unattractive to Coworkers" } ] }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://money.com/#website", "url": "https://money.com", "name": "Money", "publisher": { "@id": "https://money.com/#organization" } }, { "@type": "WebPage", "@id": "https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/#webpage", "url": "https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/", "name": "These Qualities Will Make You Unattractive to Coworkers", "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://money.com/#website" }, "datePublished": "2015-02-12T20:16:09.000Z", "mainEntity": { "@id": "https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/" }, "inLanguage": "en-US", "breadcrumb": { "@id": "https://money.com/workplace-dating-attractive/#breadcrumb" }, "dateModified": "2024-04-16T05:16:42.000Z" }, { "@type": "Article", "headline": "These Qualities Will Make You Unattractive to Coworkers", "articleSection": "Career Advice", "image": [ { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://img.money.com/2015/02/150212_car_officecrush2.jpg", "width": 4909, "height": 3561, "caption": "150212_CAR_OfficeCrush2" } ], "author": [ { "@type": "Person", "name": "Donna Rosato", "url": "https://money.com/author/donna-rosato-3/", "@id": "https://money.com/author/donna-rosato-3/#author", "image": "https://img.money.com/2014/05/140530_bio_author_rosato.jpg?quality=85&w=190&h=190&crop=1", "email": "donna_rosato@moneymail.com", "sameAs": [ "https://x.com/RosatoDonna" ] } ], "publisher": "https://money.com/#organization", "datePublished": "2015-02-12T20:16:09.000Z", "description": "Got a crush on a colleague? 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