--- title: Why a Maid is a Better Investment than a Divorce Lawyer description: Hiring help can make sense for new parents—even poor-ish ones. The next installment in a series of dispatches on being a new dad, a Millennial, and (pretty) broke. authors: - name: Taylor Tepper url: https://money.com/author/taylor-tepper-3/ at_money_since: 2013 articles: 168 covers: - Lifestyle - Banking - Business - Career Advice - Credit - Credit Cards - Economy and Politics - Education - Housing - Identity Theft - Insurance - Investing - Loans - Mortgages - Personal Finance - Retirement - Shopping - Taxes social: - https://x.com/TaylorTepper former_staff: true published: '2014-07-07T10:00:17.000Z' modified: '2024-05-07T08:46:51.000Z' section: Lifestyle tags: - baby - baby chairs - baby clothes - baby economics - child care - chores - Day Care - First-Time Dad - Kids and Money - maid - nanny - opportunity cost - Spending word_count: 760 canonical: https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/ type: Article source: structured-blocks --- > **Disclosure:** We research all brands listed and may earn a fee from our partners. Research and financial considerations may influence how brands are displayed. Not all brands are included. [Learn more](https://money.com/page/disclaimer/). ![Luke Tepper](https://img.money.com/2014/07/140705_ff_dadblog_luke1.jpg?crop=0px%2C810px%2C2448px%2C1377px&quality=85) *It takes a lot of work to keep these sheets clean—but now, it's not our work.* On a normal Saturday, my son Luke wakes up around 6 a.m.—which means I wake up at 6 a.m. Mrs. Tepper, half-asleep, is still recovering from our son’s late-night feeding four hours earlier. So 6 a.m. is my time. The next hour is filled with jungle-themed activity mats, frozen teethers and a $23 French rubber giraffe named [Sophie](http://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/3147105/?catalogId=20&sku=3147105&bnrid=3518538&cm_ven=Google_PLA&cm_cat=Toys&cm_pla=Baby_Toys&cm_ite=Sophie_the_Giraffe&kpid=3147105&srccode=cii_17588969&cpncode=34-209856589-2) that is seemingly standard-issue in my neighborhood despite its outrageous price tag. By 9 a.m., Luke is back asleep and my wife and I make breakfast, do the laundry, and walk the dog. If we're lucky we'll have the bed made, the dishes done, and Luke's things assembled in some kind of order by the time he wakes up at 10 a.m. (Of course his cadre of stuffed animals will be strewn across the floor by 10:15 a.m.) Around 11 a.m. we dress him, assemble his diaper bag and set off on errands. (Grab the dry cleaning, pick up dog food, stop by the farmer's market.) By 1 p.m., we’ve returned to our disheveled apartment, and Luke goes down for another nap. By 2 p.m. we can’t remember our names. We used to *love* Saturdays. After almost five months of little sleep and spending almost every waking hour —and these seem to be growing exponentially—on our kid or our household tasks, we’ve come to the conclusion that certain unintended expenses needed to be incurred if we want to save our sanity and stay on speaking terms. In short, we decided that we needed a maid. There’s an [economic argument](http://www.investopedia.com/terms/o/opportunitycost.asp) in favor of paying someone else to do mundane chores. With only so many hours in a day, every second you’re rinsing dishes or walking dirty clothes to the laundromat is a second you could have used to further your career, to spend more quality time with your kid, or to actually have an adult conversation with your spouse. As Catherine Rampell [wrote](http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/10/magazine/outsource-your-way-to-success.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0) in *The* *New York Times* last year: > Hiring people to work essentially as servants smacks of classism or insufficient self-reliance. Scrubbing your own toilet or doing your own laundry supposedly builds character, or something to that effect. And while it’s certainly good to have these skills in a pinch, it’s probably not a wise financial decision to use them all the time if you could instead be engaging in other activities that improve your—and your family’s—well-being. Still, I didn’t like the idea of hiring someone to clean our apartment. While the Mrs. and I make about double the U.S. median household income, we live in one of the most expensive [cities](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/property/internationalproperty/10555550/The-20-most-expensive-cities-in-the-world-2014-in-pics.html?frame=2512975) in the world. We also already budgeted $400 a week for child care so Mrs. Tepper (who makes more than I do) can return to work. Money wasn’t the only reason. I *enjoy* washing the dishes. The soft rhythm of a basic task is almost meditative, especially after a long day. I *enjoy* cooking dinner. I may be a tad sentimental, but feeding my family healthful meals is a source of pride. I could intellectualize the rationale for hired help, but some part of me had a hard time accepting that we were *that* type of family. Maids seem like a lifestyle choice for richer people. But this hang-up was just something I had to get over for my family's sake. So we hired a maid. She was recommended by a friend and stops by for four hours every two weeks at a cost of $120 a month. That’s $15 an hour—which is a lot cheaper than a $500 an hour divorce lawyer. Since Mrs. Tepper and I don’t go to the movies anymore—which costs north of $12 a ticket in New York—and eat out less frequently these days, we found room for the additional expense (wistfully) in our entertainment budget. Of course we’re still sleep-deprived most of the time, and we can’t afford a personal chef or a dog walker or wash-and-fold laundry service. But thanks to a relatively small investment, when Luke rolls over these days, it's onto a recently mopped floor that we didn't have to mop ourselves. And I must say, coming home to a spotless apartment and a happy wife sure beats returning to a spotless apartment and an *un*happy wife. **\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ ** *Taylor Tepper is a reporter at* Money*. This column appears weekly.* *More First-Time Dad:* [Why You Should Get Up From Your Desk and Go Home](https://money.com/get-up-from-your-desk-and-go-home/) [Baby Clothes are Cheaper than Therapy](https://money.com/baby-clothes-cheaper-than-therapy/) Why I'll Send my Infant Son to College Before I Buy a House Why Does my Baby Need Two of Everything? ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "@id": "https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/#breadcrumb", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://money.com" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Lifestyle", "item": "https://money.com/lifestyle/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Divorce", "item": "https://money.com/divorce/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "Why a Maid is a Better Investment than a Divorce Lawyer" } ] }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://money.com/#website", "url": "https://money.com", "name": "Money", "publisher": { "@id": "https://money.com/#organization" } }, { "@type": "WebPage", "@id": "https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/#webpage", "url": "https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/", "name": "Why a Maid is a Better Investment than a Divorce Lawyer", "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://money.com/#website" }, "datePublished": "2014-07-07T10:00:17.000Z", "mainEntity": { "@id": "https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/" }, "inLanguage": "en-US", "breadcrumb": { "@id": "https://money.com/maid-divorce-lawyer-first-time-dad/#breadcrumb" }, "dateModified": "2024-05-07T08:46:51.000Z" }, { "@type": "Article", "headline": "Why a Maid is a Better Investment than a Divorce Lawyer", "articleSection": "Lifestyle", "image": [ { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://img.money.com/2014/07/140705_ff_dadblog_luke1.jpg?crop=0px%2C810px%2C2448px%2C1377px&quality=85", "width": 1012, "height": 569, "caption": "140705_FF_Dadblog_Luke" } ], "author": [ { "@type": "Person", "name": "Taylor Tepper", "url": "https://money.com/author/taylor-tepper-3/", "@id": "https://money.com/author/taylor-tepper-3/#author", "image": "https://img.money.com/2014/05/14-05-21_bio_author_tepper1.jpg?quality=85&w=190&h=190&crop=1", "email": "ttepper@moneymail.com", "sameAs": [ "https://x.com/TaylorTepper" ] } ], "publisher": "https://money.com/#organization", "datePublished": "2014-07-07T10:00:17.000Z", "description": "Hiring help can make sense for new parents—even poor-ish ones. 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