--- title: 'Dollar Scholar Asks: When Is It OK Not to Tip?' description: Who should you tip, and when can you skip it? Experts say just because I have the option to tip doesn't mean I have the obligation to tip. authors: - name: Julia Glum role: Managing Editor url: https://money.com/author/julia-glum/ bio: Julia Glum joined Money in 2018 and specializes in covering financial trends that affect everyday Americans' wallets. She also writes Dollar Scholar, a weekly newsletter that teaches young adults how to navigate the messy world of money. education: University of Florida at_money_since: 2018 articles: 453 covers: - Personal Finance - Banking - Business - Career Advice - Credit - Credit Cards - Debt - Economy and Politics - Education - Health and Wellness - Housing - Identity Theft - Insurance - Investing - Lifestyle - Loans - Mortgages - Professional Services - Retirement - Shopping - Taxes - Technology also_seen_in: - Newsweek - International Business Times - CBS News - Good Morning America - WUSA9 - Pix 11 - The New York Times - Mashable - The Washington Post - CNBC - Politico social: - https://x.com/superjulia - https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-glum published: '2023-10-09T14:54:31.000Z' modified: '2024-01-10T15:23:16.000Z' section: Personal Finance tags: - dollar scholar - News word_count: 957 canonical: https://money.com/dollar-scholar-no-tipping/ type: NewsArticle source: structured-blocks --- > **Disclosure:** We research all brands listed and may earn a fee from our partners. Research and financial considerations may influence how brands are displayed. Not all brands are included. [Learn more](https://money.com/page/disclaimer/). ![Dollar Scholar banner featuring money tip jars](https://img.money.com/2023/09/DollarScholar-Who-Dont-I-Have-to-Tip.jpg) *This is an excerpt from Dollar Scholar, the Money newsletter where news editor Julia Glum teaches you the modern money lessons you NEED to know. Don't miss the next issue! Sign up at **[money.com/subscribe](https://money.com/subscribe/dollar-scholar/)** and join our community of 160,000+ Scholars.* * * * In 10th grade, I had this super-harsh history teacher who would grade our essays in purple pen. When she didn’t like something we’d written — not when the facts were wrong, mind you, just when she didn’t jibe with the phrasing — she’d scrawl “AWK” out to the side. (For a 15-year-old aspiring writer, this was a particularly brutal insult.) Now, as an adult, I swear I can feel Mrs. McDougald’s AWKs hovering over my head any time I’m in an awkward situation — like whenever the barista at my local coffee shop spins the [point-of-sale tablet](https://money.com/best-tablet-pos-system/) around for a tip. I freeze every time because I don’t know what the etiquette is for tipping someone who’s doing nothing more than pouring cold brew into a to-go cup and sliding it across the counter. Surely this doesn’t have to be so AWK. Obviously, I’m not the only one who’s getting tripped up. [“Tipflation” and “tip creep”](https://money.com/tipping-etiquette-when-ok-not-tip/) have sparked a whole bunch of debate lately, with near-constant hot takes and viral social media posts. Diane Gottsman, national etiquette expert and founder of [the Protocol School of Texas](https://protocolschooloftexas.com/), confirmed that it’s tricky. “As a society, we really want to do the right thing — we don't want to cheat anyone, but at the same time we don’t want to be taken advantage of,” she says. “Knowing when it's appropriate and when we can pass on that gratuity is helpful.” The first thing to consider is how the person in question is being paid. If someone is pulling a salary, Gottsman says, I generally don’t need to tip them. Think: my doctor, my attorney, my dentist, my accountant, et cetera. “You do not tip anyone who is a professional,” says Thomas P. Farley, an etiquette expert who goes by [Mister Manners](https://mister-manners.com/). “These individuals, we presume, are well-compensated for the roles they play in our lives. There is zero expectation in those situations of tipping.” It’s different for workers who are paid hourly or rely on tips as part of their pay. In these roles, tips are crucial to someone’s compensation. (Think: my bellhop, my valet, my Uber driver.) I may also want to consider the specific scenario. If I’m at my local cafe, and they simply hand over an iced coffee and throw a doughnut in a bag for me, Gottsman says I shouldn’t feel pressured to tip. But if “they’ve poured you six cups of coffee, given you two dozen doughnuts and you've held up a line because your 4-year-old can’t make up her mind,” that’s a whole other story. Ditto if that worker is doing something I don’t want to do, like delivering a pizza to my house in the rain or moving my couch up four flights of stairs. Typically, however, just because I have the option to tip doesn’t mean I have the obligation to tip. “It’s still discretionary, though it may not feel so,” adds Farley, who recently gave a TED Talk on tipping. Often, the employees don’t love it, either. Farley says many small businesses use [tablets for payment technology](https://money.com/best-mobile-pos-systems/) simply because it helps them streamline transactions — and attract hospitality workers at a time when it’s difficult to hire folks in the industry post-pandemic. But digital tipping systems also come with a lack of transparency. “When you were at the neighborhood ice cream shop and there were high school students in an AC-less parlor scooping ice cream and there was a glass tip jar where you could drop a dollar or two, you had a pretty good indicator the cash was going to the people behind the counter,” Farley says. But we don't really have that anymore. [As Vox points out](https://www.vox.com/recode/2022/10/7/23389885/square-toast-tipping-retail-tipflation-guilt), the payment systems loaded onto those tablets typically make money by taking a percentage cut from each transaction, and the larger the transaction, the larger the cut. So the companies that make these systems want me to tip — sometimes the on-screen messaging is even designed to goad me into it. This can have ramifications. People who do historically rely on tips, like servers or massage therapists, may suffer because of tipping fatigue elsewhere, Farley says. The more we’re expected to tip on simple purchases, the less willing we'll be to do it when it matters. Gottsman underscores that, ultimately, tipping is my decision. Like signing up for *The Bachelor*, it’s something you should do for the right reasons. Gratitude, not guilt, is the move here — and that’s why there’s nothing wrong with skipping a tip (in certain situations). “Not tipping doesn’t mean you're not leaving a gesture of kindness. It simply means this was a business transaction. You were polite; they were polite,” Gottsman says. “It’s OK to forgo that option, and you won't be doing anything wrong.” It’s fine to skip tipping salaried professionals who don’t rely on gratuity for their compensation — or when a transaction is a quick and easy one. Even though it may feel AWK, I should feel empowered to choose when I do and don’t tip. 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